Feedback Thoughts

The two articles I read for this assignment were 14 Signs Your Perfectionism has Gotten Out of Control by Carolyn Gregoire, and The Psychology of Comparison and How to Stop by Ellen Jackson.  I picked these two articles to read because both of them had titles that hit the nail on the head for me.  From 14 Signs your Perfectionism has Gotten Out of Control, I was going to pick a few that resentated with me the most, but to be honest almost all of them did! I'm not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing...haha....

Anyway, as I was reading through all the different signs, I was realizing things about myself that I'd never noticed before and how certain traits that I have could be due to my nature to be perfect.  One in particular that really stood out to me was "You know there's no use in crying over spilt milk, but you do anyways".  I am a very big planner. I have a strict schedule, down to when I should leave to get someplace on time, how much time I should spend there etc.  In other words I like things to go as planned and be well...perfect.  And when things don't go as planned (which when do they ever?) it usually has a pretty big effect on me.  I become flustered, unable to think correctly/formulate a back up plan.  Over the years I have gotten much better at being able to take what life throws at me but it is still a struggle.  

In the article about comparison, I also found a lot of things that applied to me and tips to help combat these thoughts. Tips included "being a racehorse" meaning focus on yourself and no one else, knowing your motives, aiming for personal bests, and not comparing your beginning to someone else middle.  All of these tips apply focusing more on yourself rather and others and I think are very useful! 

When it comes to feedback and constructive criticism, all of these thoughts and tips can come in handy.  However, growing up in the dance world, feedback or corrections are always something that I wanted. One reason being so that I can improve, but another reason is because usually when someone corrects you or gives advice it is because they see potential.  When someone doesn't take the time to help you be better, its because they don't care. So moral of the story is...feedback is a good thing! It means they care! So let's all get our hearts off of our sleeves and help each other grow! 

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